I started this blog as a way to cope with my Mother's physical illness and dementia. She died right before Christmas, 2011 and the focus moved toward losing a loved one. This blog has proved to be a great outlet for me to revisit the last 7 months of her life. Dealing with the pain has been hard. Writing down my memories and frustration seems to have helped me let it go a bit. It has not be an easy thing to do but I hope that has managed to provide a bit of comfort for someone who is dealing with this now. It proved to be a lot harder than I even imagined to keep up with this blog, I have so many entries that I wrote but never published - they just didn't feel right.
I have tried to be honest with my feelings even though I am not proud of how I handled my situation at times. She was an incredible lady and I hope some of her personality before the dementia came through.
Everyone deals with the decline of a loved one in different ways. My writing is based on how I dealt with my Mother's decline. Other people may share my viewpoint and may have experienced similar feelings, or maybe you think that I am so wrong to have felt that way.
Tag Archives: caregiving
My Mother died last December 23rd at the age of 94. Up until the last 2 years of her life she was in pretty good shape. Then the downhill spiral began and things changed. Just wanted to share a bit … Continue reading
Copper thieves don’t go and get all excited, the copper in her kitchen consist of my Mother’s collection of jelly molds. I have no idea why or when she started collecting the molds, they have been there for many a … Continue reading
We spent a little time the other day talking to a neighbor who is taking care of her Mother. My husband and I had no problem relating to her situation. Our conversation brought back many not so distant memories.
The five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. But the experience with my Mother made me realize that you can also go through these stages when your life changes dramatically. My Mother’s care was taking more and more of … Continue reading
Last year on May 12th we were planning a trip to Michigan to attend my husband’s parents 70th wedding anniversary party. We were looking forward to the trip and a break from the daily routine of caring for my Mom. My sister … Continue reading
May of last year was the last “normal”month of my Mom’s life. She was living alone in her house with frequent (2 to 3 times a day) visits from me to check on her. She was messy and it sometimes looked … Continue reading